The gays are asking: What little things make you lose interest in a guy?

Red flags just come with the territory when it comes to dating, but sometimes, a potential partner has traits you simply can’t overlook.

That’s why one user took to Reddit to ask for the pettiest reasons gay guys had broken off relationships. “Have you ever lost interest in someone over something arguably simple or stupid?” reads their post. They even gave their own example: “My boyfriend of a year just told me he believes the hurricanes that have hit SE America are man made and a conspiracy of the government. 1 year down the drain, just that fast.”

Another commenter had a similar experience with a conspiracy theorist: “He was a flat-earther,” they wrote.

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By and large, people’s biggest icks fell into a few main categories. Several users said their complaints came from scenarios involving food. Sometimes, that meant restaurant etiquette: “Guy starts being very rude at our server for no reason, going out of his way to humiliate the poor girl,” recalled one commenter. “He had checked every box in my mental ‘things I’m looking for in a boyfriend’ sheet, but ended up revealing his true self in his attitude towards the restaurant staff. I guess I got lucky and dodged a bullet there.”

Another said the problems arose as soon as food met mouth. “I went on a date with a guy, and we got along so well. We loved the same things, played the same games, the conversation just came so easy & he was incredibly handsome. The date went so well I asked him if we could have dinner & he seemed very keen and agreed,” they explained. “He was the loudest eater I have ever come across in my life. It put me off.”

A third user simply couldn’t stomach their date’s diet. “Dude told me that he never eats vegetables. Like, he’s opposed to them,” they wrote. “He was in his 30s. Yuck yuck yuck!”

Another commenter’s problem wasn’t with an actual meal, but with metaphorical food. “Having a tofu personality. Basically no flavor of his own, only absorbing from others. Those dried text [guys] you have to pull conversation because they have flavorless personality.” We’ll all be adding “tofu personality” to our vocabularies now, thank you very much.

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Then there are the sexual turn-offs. That doesn’t necessarily mean what you get up to in the bedroom, but anecdotes and how sex comes up outside of amorous settings.

“A guy I went on a few dates with told me, without joking, that he preferred straight guys and their dicks because […] ‘he likes the excitement of succeeding in manipulating them into having sex with him and winning over them,’” one commenter wrote. “That turned me off on so many different levels at the same time.”

“Everything was going well….till he started getting grindr notifications while sitting across from me as we are having dinner,” lamented another.

A third said things were too sexual to be taken seriously: “Overly horny where all conversations turn to comments about my body or other sexual things.” Take notes, boys — when it comes to relationships, the little things can have the biggest impact.

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