The gays are asking: Why do guys wear backwards hats while hooking up?

In the bedroom, it’s standard to strip all the way down, but some gays choose to leave a little to the imagination and not get fully nude. One flirtatious fashion choice had a gay guy scratching their head: wearing nothing but a backwards baseball cap during sex.

That’s why they took to Reddit to ask other gays their thoughts on the topic. “I have a [friend with benefits] who likes to wear a hat backwards during sex. He has a full head of hair, so it’s clearly not to cover up a bald spot,” they explained. “I see it a lot in porn and during other hookups too. Are there other reasons?”

Other users had a number of running theories. One was for utility when it comes to oral activities: “You can’t suck d*ck with the cap facing forward,” as one commenter put it. “I think it might be a gay fashion/signaling thing for that reason.”

“My [boyfriend] and I call it blowjob mode,” chimed in another. Catchy!

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“I had a friend who used to say that ‘there are only 2 kinds of people that wear a baseball cap backwards, c*cksuckers and baseball players,’” added a third. “He would follow that with ‘and you’re not playing baseball.’”

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Then there’s the masc-ness of it all. Baseball caps are jock-coded, and (as previously mentioned) wearing them forward won’t work in the heat of the moment, so if your fantasies skew athletic, a backwards cap is the way to go.

“(Artificially) enhanced expression of masculinity?” posited one user. “In [the] US, wearing a cap is a strong sign of masc. My two pence.”

“It’s this for me,” agreed another. “It feels very ‘bro’ish and having that bro mentality while also taking c*ck is a dichotomy that is really hot. Somewhat similar to being into athletic gear.

“I always see backwards caps as a ‘masque4masque’ thing,” confirmed a third. “It’s like a subtle gaydar trigger for me.”

But beyond anything kinky or directly related to sex itself, there are the everyday uses for baseball caps that can extend to amorous encounters, too.

“I think, in addition to what other posters have pointed out, sometimes it’s also used to keep the hair out of your face/getting super sweaty,” pointed out one commenter.

“For me it’s nothing to do with masculinity and everything to do with I hate fixing my hair,” added another.

A third commenter got straight to the point with a one-word reason: “Balding.”